tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5485817584281602467.post7509117251348847048..comments2023-05-26T16:00:00.767+03:00Comments on My Submissive Self: On and on and on it goes...Vestrihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11724889983016903299noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5485817584281602467.post-19535669245708564432008-08-31T23:47:00.000+03:002008-08-31T23:47:00.000+03:00I should also mention that it isn't like he's verb...I should also mention that it isn't like he's verbally abusive, or anything like that. The hypercritical stuff comes in some actual context. which doesn't make it nicer, but does indicate that while not so sensitive, he isn't setting out to hurt me.<BR/><BR/>Also, I haven't stopped looking for someone else. Kinder? Saner? LOL<BR/><BR/>Not to be had, as of yet. I'll keep you posted :-DVestrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11724889983016903299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5485817584281602467.post-37809341909412956892008-08-31T23:45:00.000+03:002008-08-31T23:45:00.000+03:00Thanks for the birthday wishes, sweetie. And the a...Thanks for the birthday wishes, sweetie. And the advice. I'm weighing...<BR/><BR/>Do you know those types of people who are fierce friends, loyal and honest to a fault, and have scads of personal charm... He's one of those guys. He has a lot of really good qualities. But he's an alcholic, his heart is still wounded, and he's hypercritical, especially as a reaction to any emotional involvement.<BR/><BR/>So I'm fully aware of all the pluses and minuses. He isn't my boyfriend. He isn't my mate. I'm not in love. I'm just a bit hypersensitive, because that's what happens to me when I submit to someone. Even temporarily. So it is less an issue of kindness, and more an issue of whether I can learn to not give a damn what he says about stuff I know better about anyway. <BR/><BR/>I think part of my personality is that sometimes I need to learn the hard way [sigh]. Also, that I try to suck the marrow out of every opportunity, whether to learn new things, make friends, or whatever else I'm getting our of this experience.<BR/><BR/>I really did wake up the next morning not caring so much what he had said. Or why. Or thinking about how to handle it. So right now, all is really well. <BR/><BR/><BR/>Hugs babe!<BR/><BR/>VestriVestrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11724889983016903299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5485817584281602467.post-14700130306360123312008-08-31T15:28:00.000+03:002008-08-31T15:28:00.000+03:00a belated but sincere happy birthday, Vestri! I t...a belated but sincere happy birthday, Vestri! I think you need to really weigh whether what Mr. C gives you balances out with the negatives. He doesn't sound like a healthy (or well-balanced) person actually and there HAVE to be others out there with kinder personalities that can do the same for you!selkiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01713419374194169822noreply@blogger.com